Maybe it's just me, but as I scroll down my facebook feed, I can't help but feel like our standards of sexiness or hotness has just...gone way down. Maybe it's a good thing, that there isn't one ideal figure, that people are more accepting of all shapes and sizes. Or maybe these words don't carry the same gravity that they used to. Or maybe I'm just really mean and judgmental, which is probably the most likely choice.
Whenever I photo stalk my "friends," there are some who I think are very deserving of the "you're so hot" comments, but there are many, MANY that don't. No matter how objective I try to be, no matter how much I squint my eyes and tilt my face, I just can't see it. And I think, aww..so-and-so has really nice friends who really love all of who they are. But for me, I could never say you're a sexy momma or you're hot stuff if I didn't really think so. I'll say things like, oh what a nice dress! or your eyes are gorgeous, but that's about it.
And if anyone says it to me, it doesn't make me feel better or more confident. I don't think, yeah...I AM hot stuff. No matter how much I hear it or say it to myself, I don't believe it any more than if nobody said anything. I just think they're trying to flatter me, or they just say anything for lack of something substantive. Either way, I think there's too many of those comments floating around. Its fine if people say a healthy, symmetrical, balanced person is sexy, but please, don't attach those comments to an unhealthily overweight, spilling-out-of-her-clothes slob. That's just gross.
I just thought that’s what girls did to each other. And trust me, guys noticed this from way back. So we came up with some possible theories/reason why girls did this-
ReplyDeleteOur conclusion was that girls were just being polite to one another. Commenting is a “nice thing to do.” If you are considered a close friend of a person and u don’t say anything to that person’s posts, say, a picture is left comment-less, then potentially the poster can feel insecure about themselves.
a. Poster can think “oh no, this must be a horrible picture of myself”
b. Poster can think “oh no, I have no friends who care about me”
So I guess it’s a way for friends (girls) to reassure the poster that they are loved and they are “beautiful” human beings.
You know, girls notice stuff for each other because they know that they themselves would like to be noticed for their own things. Like how girls say ‘I like your dress,’ or ‘I like your belt,’ etc.
Guys never notice anything, nor do they try to re-assure other guys. If guys are feeling insecure, well.. they should just “man up.”