The Trick Is to Stop Trying

So apparently, when I try to get a guy's attention, it doesn't work, but when I'm not trying to get a guy's attention, somehow they become so smitten. How does this make any sense at all?

In a nutshell, my brother brought his apartment-mate back home for Thanksgiving, and to make up for my brother's lack of hosting, I would hang out with his friend, make sure he had what he needed, had enough to eat, and wasn't bored out of his mind (as my house is quite boring). I wasn't flirting with him, trying to be extra nice or anything, and at night, I would ditch them and help my parents finish our remodeling project, or prepare for Sunday School, or play games online.

Anyway, after they got back to their apartment in VA, he asked my brother for my email address, and he emails me. He said that I'm such a nice and caring person, that I'm a truly awesome person and he would regret it if he didn't take the chance to be better friends and try to get to know me better, and would I be interested in continued correspondence? That was sent Monday at 4:45 AM. I didn't write back until about two hours ago, and it was quite the generic, oh I'm so glad you enjoyed your visit, I'm not really that nice, I was just being a good host, come back anytime! type of letter. Well, not even an hour passes and he writes back, saying how he liked that I helped around the house and with grandpa and it's important to surround yourself with good, positive, influences like me.

Like...what the heck? I wasn't doing anything out of the ordinary. The remodeling project was my idea (and my money) so of course I had to do most of the work. I didn't really help grandpa that much, only the normal food-gathering at dinner. asdjhgadhgj;awkdfj It just makes me think...why do I try so hard for other people and get nowhere? At least when I do nothing, I get somewhere. This game is messed up.